22 January, 2007

Water Water Everywhere...But Not a Drop to Drink...

63% of UAE national men favour traditional marriages.
71% of UAE national women prefer to choose their husbands themselves.

It also indicated that 63 % of Emirati women refuse to marry a man with a poorer education than them.

It's time to up the game boys.

23 comments:

Anonymous said...
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Anonymous said...

Guess the guys can go back to this if the women say no!

samuraisam said...

anonymous @ 22 January, 2007 12:29: Your comment has been deleted. No shit stirring allowed.

John B. Chilton said...

Upping the games, boys, includes education to keep up with the girls. Shameless plug.

Anonymous said...

pis

Anonymous said...

and what happens to the guys who do get married to local girls... get the hell out of the country. The girl can forget about comming back of course.

moryarti said...

I never thought these polls were accurate anyways ..

Anonymous said...

I dont believe this figure. It must be the other way around.

It is actually the male who are picky comparing to the females.

Anonymous said...

It is applied to 200 only

Most, females and males, prefer arranged marriege.

Al Mulhama, The Inspired said...

oh boy!

my favourite subject! with these facts have they also put in the percentage of divorce... and second marriages... and adultry... and... etc...

This is the case not only in the UAE but with a lot of Arab & eastern cultures - and before anyone jumps down my throat I know its not ALL Arab cultures that's why I said a lot.

Ask anyone married, there is no great recipe for the best way & marriage. As we say, marriage is like a watermelon; you can never be sure of what you're getting until you break it & taste it.

Anonymous said...

Interesting statistics. But nothing really new, It has been part of our tradition that when a guy proposes to a women the women decides if she would go for him or not. Sometimes the parents intervene I know. Even in the case of arranged marriges, parents nominate a guy or two to the lady (her relatives, family friends) and women still choose.

But I belive the cases of forced marrige are rare these days.

Anonymous said...

sam what about anon 12:36?

I think it makes sense regardless of the figures.

Many men play and fool around, so they can't trust them selves to marry a "decent" woman therefore they get mom to find them a decent wife.

Women witness men fooling around and then they decide to intervene with fate so they choose not to be with losers.

Mitsuki said...

Thats interesting .. I agree for and Emiraty women I prefer to chose my husband by myself (NO to arranged marriges) and I dnt think I would accept someone who is not as educated as me cause beleive b4 i feel different he will feel lower that me in thoughts and in many things it will not work!!!


So why suffer the pain! EDUCATE URSELFS GUYS

Mme Cyn said...

I'd be interested in knowing what is meant by "choosing their husbands themselves". As it stands now, girls can generally (not always!) say 'no' to a proposed match, in which case they may view that as choosing their husbands. But in the western idea of choosing a husband, these young women are still kept isolated from eligible men outside their families, so I think this 'result' is misleading. I do know of one Emirati girl who met a nice man t work ... her family found out she was interested in a man she worked with and promptly forced her to leave her job.

Oh well. Maybe things will actually change one day.

Anonymous said...

s&d good title. i am impressed. maybe you do have half a brain.

Anonymous said...

Mitsuki can u enlighten me about the ways u got to choose ur husband and not by arranged marriege? Because as far as I know most (like 80 -90%) marry the arranged way.

Anonymous said...

I'd say it is time to up the game-boys...

Mitsuki said...

Not all of the women here are forced to marry who their parents want and not all are married in the old arranged way .. Things are changing fast here we are not in the 60s anymore!!!

If a guy propose to me I have my right to agree or refuse also I have the right to get to know him better if I want ...

BTW we dnt have to date or move together to say that its not an arranged marrage :)

Anonymous said...

^^ Actually the majority aren't forced . I thought that when u said that u want to choose ur husband that u want to know him before getting married by having a date for example.

Mitsuki said...

In Islam its Haram to have a boyfriend and date a guy b4 getting engaged to him ofcourse!!
Therefore we have the engagement period to know each other better :)


In the past the women had no right to say yes or no to whoever her parents ask to marry but now its different women can express there opinions freely .. This is what I meant

A Blessing in Tragedy said...

Time to poke holes in the poster's post!

1. Define a "traditional Emarati" marriage. It is an undefinable term since every single person with that blue passport came from somewhere else. even though an overwhelming majority of us are Muslim, even within a single ethnic group, a "tradition" varies to such an extent that even I raise an eye brow when told by other fellow citizens how they do things.

2. Many many many ethnic groups in the UAE DO indeed give their women all the right in the world to choose who they marry. I have an unmarried 44 year old aunt. why? she choose no one! In fact, Islamicaly, you cannot force anyone. a marriage is a contract that must be signed of one's own volition. a marriage is void in the case of "ikrah" (force)

3. Well that is just logical. I, as a college educated emarati guy would NEVER marry a non-college educated woman. NOT that there is anything wrong with that. I know men who married less educated women, and vice versa.

So what was the point of this post? You don't have one. undefinable terms with shady statistics. Great!

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EDUCATE URSELFS GUYS

Nice spelling there my educated female friend. ;-) Something tells me that finding someone with a lesser education than yours would be the task of tasks.

Anonymous said...

^^ What is the point of ur post?

@Mitsuki

I dont remember a time when females were forced to marry some one. That is new to me and am an Emirati.

A Blessing in Tragedy said...

The point of my post is simple. look harder. ;-)

And you're wrong. There are both mena and women in the UAE who ARE infact forced to marry. I know families who do this. They are by far the minority, but you cant say it doesnt exist because it does.

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