04 November, 2006

Religious Sexual Harassing

After an eight-hour day at college, I step down my bus and hear "Masha Allah! Masha Allah! Masha Allah!" chants thrice and look around to notice an old man gawking at me.

A perverted smirk and a shameless stare added to the malevolence of his appearance.

I felt the urge to throw my 900-page book at him, or whack him with my hand-bag but it wasn't his fault. You see, I must have provoked him. Covered from head to toe, with only my face and hands exposed, I was displaying too much of 'meat'.

Moreover, why did I feel disgusted? 'Masha Allah', when roughly translated means "God has willed it." It's used to express appreciation of what you see while reckoning Allah's intentions. It's also used for the purpose of keeping the evil eyes away. How thoughtful of him to sexually harass me in undue holiness! How thoughtful of him to ensure I didn't become a victim of anyone's evil eyes!

Besides, after a mentally-draining day, and exhaustion oozing from every pore of her face, a girl wants to be complimented on how she looks. And it should be very flattering to receive such appreciation in public from a random man her father's age walking down the street ...


samuraisam said...

this reminds me of when I was with a local friend in mall of the emirates; he accidentally stood on a teenage-womans abaya on the escalator and she began crying and shouting at all of us /:

Rejected said...

Walla you made me laugh at how you described the whole thing even though I feel sorry you went through that but to make you feel better let me tell you that that Mashallah is better than "Astakhfur Allah" . One man with a beard asked for Allah's forgiveness simply because I made him sin by my long shirt and trousers. Only my hair, my neck, my hands and my feet were showing that day.

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blogrosh said...

There are wee bit souls out there with quite a bit of "oppressed" emotions

archer14 said...

Isn't it funny that you find it appropriate to smack an old man..what about the rest of The Dudes who hang out at the malls? It doesn't stop at just "Masha Allah!" does it?

Fizza said...

archer14: of course it doesn't stop here. The point is, no one cares about sexual harassment in this country. It's usually blamed on the female. She's accused of provoking it. Sad, sad, sad.

Astakhfur said...

Sorry I can't make a judgement on this until you've posted your pic.

ali said...

I agree with Fizza - its happened to girls i know including my sisters and im pretty much pissed off with the whole concept, it gets worse with stalkers trying to get their mobile number and they keep yelling whats your phone number or yell theirs out*SIGH*

Cant do much, wish something got sorted, what about the police? should'nt they do something about this?

Fizza said...

ali: The question is, what thrill do these men find in making a woman feel uncomfortable?

click_310 said...

You carry a 900 page book :O

well next time use mace or a Taser.

At the risk of sounding insensitive, arrogant and an utter idiot, may I state the following for the record.

Covering yourself up from head to toe does not stop perverts from looking at you like you are a piece of meat. You could be wearing a tube top and low riders and the pervert would have said the same.

Its not your fault, (its never the womans fault -IMHO). A pervert is a pervert. He deserves the 900 page book slamming in to his skull. Not only from you fizza, but from every male who has any respect for humanity.

DG said...

Dear sister, I feel sorry for you. There are good & bad people everywhere.

But I have one objection, the heading of your post gives the impression that maybe the religion encourages this kind of harassment. Do you really think Islam or any religion encourages this type of behaviour by some perverts?

The Quranic verse asking men to lower their gaze comes before a similar verse for women.

Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do. (24:30)

And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms, etc.) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husband's sons, their brothers or their brother's sons, or their sister's sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful. (24:31)

blogrosh said...

DG - "Do you really think Islam or any religion encourages this type of behaviour by some perverts?"

I think the issue here is, some peverts use noble religions such as Islam to meet their hidden agendas - which is truly sad. This was the same story when the church "hijacked" christianity to meet self serving needs - apparently some presidents (no guessing required) continue that tradition today.

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